So I’ll give it a go as it has been almost a year since my last disastrous dating experience, maybe he can redeem my faith in Ghanaian men.
Having been home for a while, and with time on my hands, I have been reading some of these self-help books, like the Steve Harvey book ‘think like a man’ and ‘he’s just not that into you’.
I’m sure, if nothing else, it will be interesting, and more food for my blog.
A sea turtle was rescued by US Coast Guard officials after they discovered it floating in the Eastern Pacific Ocean attached to more than 1,800lb of cocaine.
Now as much as I find myself the full package (attractive, intelligent, kind etc…). Of course I would not go to a black tie event and get so inebriated that I am dancing on tables, but if I’m out at a drinking spot, I would rather have a gin and tonic than a bottle of Alvaro. My drinking or my smoking doesn’t define me, it’s a small part of what I do, not what I am.
This guy I met, he knows this, and has still decided to stick around, maybe he’s the one guy in Ghana whose mind is a bit open. Interview – When a guy sees a girl, his first aim is to see how far his sweet talking can get him. When you apply you submit your CV (the sweet talk stage), next phase is the interview. If he’s not correct, it is better you find it now before investing your precious time on a guy who is just a fly by night. Meeting the family – I don’t think when you take a guy to meet the parents that it means the next day he’s expected to take you to the altar.
I have to admit, for me, it is true what they say about women and their libido. Coupled with the fact that it has been so long since I got laid, a guy just needs to step on my toe and I get a sensation.
But really, Mr Harvey put it simply, when you first start a job, you are put on probation for at least 90 days, you are confirmed once you have proved that you are up to doing the job.They don’t say anything that we girls don’t already know (but always manage to ignore), but now that I am dating again and looking at my past experiences, I’ve put some rules together which I hope will stop history from repeating itself. Attractiveness – I used to think that a guy that was less attractive of me would appreciate me and treat me accordingly. What happens is that when they get you, they start having ideas above their station and think if they got you, they can get any girl. This isn’t to say that you should hold out for a Boris Kodjoe lookalike, I mean that you know your worth don’t go below that level. In Essex, there is a phrase called Ladettes, looks like a lady but can fight like a guy.A guy who is just as attractive as you are is comfortable in his own skin and so will not always be searching for more. Be yourself – we say we want a guy who takes us for who we are, but then we meet a guy and somehow mould ourselves into a ‘perfect girlfriend’, then when our guard is dropped and the walls start to come down, the guy then say’s “you’ve changed”. I could be described as one to some extent, depending on the situation.Parents also are very good at seeing what you refuse to see because you are so wrapped up into the getting to know each other stage.Especially father’s, having played a lot of women in their time; they can spot a playa from a mile off.If God forbid anything was to happen on the road, who would know where I am.