Before you begin planning your future together Getting to know someone takes time, planning a future in your mind with someone you barely know can have tragic results to your relationship and friendship.
Everyone is at different stages, and it’s a good idea to wait for them to catch up before you plan this amazing life with them.
I reluctantly approached him, “Um hey, are you ready to go? When we stepped outside, he grabbed me, and kissed me.
What’s up” “Well I was just calling to see if we were still on for tonight” “Oh, um, hmm, right, um, yeah, I forgot about that.
But if you want to, um, then yeah, sure okay I guess I mean if you want to” “Um okay.
Ten minutes later he called to tell me he was waiting downstairs.
I stepped off the elevator to see an absolutely miserable looking guy slumped on a chair.
Experience is the best teacher of all and this particular experience was an eye-opener and game-changer for sure. I met up with a friend one Saturday afternoon at a bar for a football game. He was cute, charming, and we seriously hit it off right away.
Our afternoon of fun turned into a night out and me, my friend, J, and his friend bar-hopped, talked, laughed, danced, and played pool until the wee hours.Before heading home, J and I planned a date for that Thursday.We exchanged numbers, kissed, said our goodbyes, and I left feeling quite pleased with myself, knowing that I had played my cards right. I wasn’t expecting a call on Monday or Tuesday because of the ‘rules’ and all that, but by Wednesday night I started to feel a little panicked. By 7 pm I had two choices: resign myself to the fact that he isn’t into me, or do something I had never, ever done before- call him. As the phone rang I practiced the message I would leave on his voicemail in my head but was interrupted when, to my astonishment, a very perplexed-sounding J answered the phone.These are the Post-Mortems, where we dissect a letter and dig through the remains in order to get to the heart of the issue. Many times, we’re having to liberally apply the Chair Leg of Truth to a lifetime of beliefs.But, while the love may be tough, at the end we’re going to know exactly what went wrong and how we can do better next time.See you soon.” At this point, I was absolutely panicked.