Ask about who has the problem): The more objective your questions, the more likely your date will answer honestly.Ask about your sweetie’s family and about friends’ marriages.
Don’t expect an immediate “I love you” back When you’re ready to speak up, present it as a feeling you can’t deny, but not one you expect your date to reciprocate.
“Say, ‘Look, you don’t have to say anything, but I want you to know, I think I’m falling in love with you’ or ‘I’m not sure what I’m feeling, but I think I might be falling in love with you,’” suggests Puhn.
Calmly say, “My feelings are strong enough that I can’t continue seeing you if this isn’t exclusive.” It’s no one’s fault, so don’t treat it as such, and you leave the door open for your sweetie to maybe start missing you and change his or her mind. Sure, provided there’s a chance you may want to commit down the road. So bite the bullet and say, “I like you, but I’m not at a point in my life where I want a relationship in the foreseeable future.” That may hurt, but your honesty here will spare you both a lot of pain later on.
Keep it positive So your date wants you and only you… “What your date is really asking is, ‘Are you into this? So if you are, say so before mentioning your reservations, as in “I’m really into this, I just need more time, can you give me that? …But not While these are legitimate curiosities, making your date dish specifics isn’t helpful and if anything, will just breed insecurity.
” “It’s not about the ex in particular,” says Puhn.
“It’s about opening the door for the person to say, ‘Oh man, I thought it was the end of the world…’” Steer clear of direct questions If you’re dying to get hitched or have kids, it’s understandable to want to see if this person has the same wish.
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