This is when the big question emerges even more strongly: “Where are we headed?
Stage 4: Commitment or Engagement At this stage in a relationship, couples should have a good understanding of their partner’s values, life style, and goals for the future.
There should be a relationship with each other’s family and friends.
At this stage, the attraction may not be too “deep” and each half of a couple is generally putting his or her best foot forward.
Differences are not noticed or are dismissed with thoughts like “not a big deal” or “she will change”.
At each stage, there is often a decision (sometimes more thoughtfully arrived at than others) to move forward or to end the relationship.
Some stages take longer than others to go through and some people take much longer at each stage.
The initial meeting may take place over the internet, through friends, in a church or social group, at a party or bar or any one of a myriad of many different places.
Different arenas for meeting allow for different opportunities to get to know each other and see if there is enough curiosity or interest to take it to the next level which would involve arranging a second or third meeting.
Open and honest conversations should be happening as couples plan their present and future together.